'Everyone knows they're practically married': Girlfriend stands up for herself and walks out of boyfriend's work event after finding out he has a 'work wife'

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    r/AITAH ⚫9 hr. ago Upper-Sherbert1868 AITA for walking out of a baby shower early because I found out that my boyfriend has a "work wife"?
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    One of my boyfriend's close colleagues had their baby shower today and he asked if I wanted to tag along. I got there, everything was pretty, and there were some good vibes. It was mostly the colleague's family and three of his other
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    coworkers that were there, who ended up meeting (one male, two females). When my boyfriend went to introduce me to one of the women, his male coworker jumped in saying, "That's his work wife!" And they all laughed. My
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    boyfriend didn't really laugh genuinely but more coyly with his head down like he knew it wasn't right. I did not laugh at all and looked at both of them. The guy continued, "Yeah, everyone knows they're practically married. You should see
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    their faces whenever one is missing out of work.... they act so depressed. I asked if I could join them so I can get free food too!" (Not verbatim but that's basically what he said) I had no words. The "work wife" tried to make light of the situation by
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    tapping my shoulder and joking, "Don't worry, he's in good hands!" And then she started telling my boyfriend that I was beautiful and he was lucky to have me. I didn't know what to say. I smiled politely and whispered to my boyfriend that I was
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    leaving. He tried gripping my hip harder as an indirect way of saying no, but I pulled it off and called an Uber to go home because I was distraught. He never mentioned having a "work wife" to me and I don't like the
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    thought of it at all. I guess people were asking where I went and my boyfriend felt awkward because he had to make up a lie for me leaving early when they could already tell the real reason why I left so abruptly. He wanted me to wait and talk it out later. I knew I was only going to get angrier if I did.
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    FictionalContext • 9h ago Really sounds to me like the coworker was being a bro. Dude was straight up telling you what was going on at work, but doing it "as a joke." The way you described it, that guy was blunt af. It didn't just randomly pop up in conversation--dude went out of his way to tell you in a way that made it clear he knew you probably didn't know.
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    • MyFriendsCallMeEpic 10h ago the way you described it makes him look really guilty... of what im not quite sure of yet. I want to say however, that work friend who spilled the beans! real MVP that person probably is aware enough to see something is up and gave you the heads up.
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    WielderOfAphorisms NTA . 10h ago Work "spouses" are BS. It would be one thing if he'd told you and it was a joke you shared. His reaction seems to indicate there is something more at play. It's not cute or funny.
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    Bella Rose36 • 10h ago I would have felt uncomfortable as well and wanted to leave. I don't think your boyfriend would have appreciated it if the roles were reversed. It was disrespectful and inconsiderate.
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    MatterOrganic2867 10h ago NTA, joking about it is not an excuse imo. It means they have deep attachments towards each other and it's visible enough that everyone at work knows. They probably go out to lunch, have inside jokes, text on the side, etc. She appears to enjoy the attention and has no shame.
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    He needs to give your relationship way more respect since you're the one dating him, yet he is showing attention to another girl. I would not be ok with a work husband/wife thing.
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    Right-Pie-8481 • 10h ago He should have left with you. I'd be gone before he got home. from the shower. I never would have let you leave alone. It was a moment where he failed to respond correctly to a a situation where you clearly needed his allegiance.
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    OceanBreeze 123 • 10h ago NTA. And from the guy's description, sounds like they're far more entwined than the stereotypical "work spouse." Your bf should have left to talk to you instead of staying. Especially since it's about a close personal relationship going on with a co-worker that he conveniently never mentioned.
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    PerfectionPending • 9h ago "work husband/wife" is a trend that needs to die a thousand deaths. As a guy who takes his marriage seriously, I find it insulting.
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    super_sayanything • 10h ago NTA. Hiding this from you is bad. Not leaving with you is also bad. Your reaction is perfectly understandable. I wouldn't say the relationship is doomed, but there certainly needs to be some real serious communication before going forward. I can't imagine having a girlfriend and not telling her about a bestie at work, female or male. Even if harmless, he was still hiding something.
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    OKbutjusthearmeout . 10h ago Bring home a guy and tell your BF that this guy is your home husband and see how he likes it. To get to the point of describing as work wife, hugely disrespectful to your relationship IMO.
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    badboyblues 9h ago Read their texts and see how they respond to each other with no one around.

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